Last year, more precisely during the thanksgiving holidays, I watched the movie Eat Pray Love with my sister and made it my mission to read the book as well. I made such decision because after watching the movie, I felt as if I could relate to the same feelings that this woman was struggling with. Elizabeth Gilbert, who is the author of the book was in her early thirties, living in NY as a very successful writer, being the owner of the house of her dreams and married to the love of her life. Yet, instead of feeling happy and fulfilled, she felt consumed by panic and confusion. Following a divorce and a crushing depression, she decides to leave behind everything she ever owned, including friends and family to travel for a whole year. She chooses to explore three different cultures: Pleasure in Italy, Devotion in India, and ends up finding love in Indonesia.
Here are a couple of my favorite quotes from the book:
“Someday you’re gonna look back on this moment of your life as such a sweet time of grieving. You’ll see that you were in mourning and your heart was broken, but your life was changing…”
“To find the balance you want, this is what you must become. You must keep your feet grounded so firmly on the earth that it’s like you have 4 legs instead of 2. That way, you can stay in the world. But you must stop looking at the world through your head. You must look through your heart, instead. That way, you will know God.”
“In desperate love, we always invent the characters of our partners, demanding they be what we need of them, and then feeling devastated when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place.”
“When I get lonely these days, I think: So BE lonely, Liz. Learn your way around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it, for once in your life. Welcome to the human experience. But never again use another person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled yearnings.”
“Happiness is the consequence of personal effort. You fight for it, strive for it, insist upon it, and sometimes even travel around the world looking for it. You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings. And once you have achieved a state of happiness, you must never become lax about maintaining it. You must make a mighty effort to keep swimming upward into that happiness forever, to stay afloat on top of it.”
This book not only took me on a virtual tour of three different countries and taught so much about the diversity of cultures but it was also a self help book. One that made me realize that we are all burdened by issues and sometimes, it takes spending times with yourself, by yourself, to get to know yourself. This one definitely comes highly recommended, you won’t regret it.