Unfinished Business

Got a phone call last night from someone from my past, who I did not expect nor wanted to hear from. But there was that person, on the other end of the phone, asking me how I’ve been. I kept the conversation short and sweet and as brief possible. When a couple of minutes went by and this person was trying to make this conversation longer than I wanted, I only had two  choices, either talk to the person, or simply hang up. I opted for option number two.

I’ve been thinking about why this person contacted me after so long ever since… asking my self if I was running away or being rude for ending the conversation. But then I remembered why this person was no longer part of my life.

People who once were important to you tend to keep an open door, so that they can walk back into your life at any given time. Months or years after cutting all contacts with this person, she/he shows up as if nothing ever happened, reminiscing about the good old days…

The key is to remember the reason why this person is no longer part of your life. Whatever this reason may be, it was good enough that you decided to cut this person out of life. Never leave the door unlocked or half open, because once you let that person back in, you’re in for another failure. If it did not work out the first time, chances are that it probably will not work the second time around, so why bother?

Always remember that people will treat you the way that you allow them to treat you. Keep in mind that everything happens for a reason. He cheated on you for a reason, hit you for a reason, got someone else pregnant for a reason… she back stabbed you for a reason, lied about you for a reason, betrayed you for a reason…It all happened for a reason. Once you have closed that door, keep it that way and move forward. By no means do you look back, because you cannot move forward while looking backwards, and if there is one thing that I have learned is that if you play long enough with fire, eventually, you will get burned…

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3 thoughts on “Unfinished Business

  1. Well said Laura. People make choices in their lives that effect other people close to them in either a positive or negative manner. If they hurt you beyond forgiveness, then choose not to speak to them anymore. If they did something to you in the past that is forgivable, then try to restore what you had with that person before even if it means you just continue your friendship as common friends. Finding good friends is a lifelong endeavor, so try to keep them even when there is hurt and pain. Life is full of hurt and pain, so find good friends who help you get through them…even if they are old friends who need to be forgiven.

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