I don’t usually watch Oprah because of my lack of free time, but I knew that Tyler Perry would be talking about his experience with Physical, mental, and sexual abuse as a child, so I recorded today’s episode.
I just now finished watching it and I absolutely had to share with those of you who did not get a chance to watch the heartfelt interview that this Famous, successful, man shared on national television.
Tyler Perry appeared onThe Oprah Winfrey Showtoday to reveal “devastating secrets,” as Oprah put it in previews.
On his site, Perry promised, “It’s the most in-depth and revelatory interview I have ever done.”
And he did detail several different moments of sexual abuse as a child growing up in New Orleans.
“I was about five or six,” the first time, he said. He was building a bird house in his backyard and a man from across the street came over and put “his hand in my pants,” said Perry. “I thought, ‘What is this?'”
The next person was “a male nurse at the hospital. And he was doing the same thing. … Then there was the man in the church who used God and the bible to justify a lot of the things that were going on. That was my first sexual appearance – this man performing oral sex on me as a boy.”
And there was the mother of a friend of his, who seduced Perry when he was 10. He went over to play with her son and she locked the front door, laid on the couch and spread her legs, not allowing him to leave. “She puts the key inside herself and tells me to get it. I get the key but I feel my body betraying me again. I felt an erection. This is so disgusting – what these people did to this little boy – she pulled me on top of her and I felt myself inside of her.”
He spoke of his father who “hated me so much.” And of his mother, whom he “loved so much.” He also talked about how the molestation affected him during sexual experiences with women later in life. “Every time after sex I would go to the shower and wash it off of me. I needed to get way from it.”
He wept when Oprah asked him what he would say to the little boy left behind? “I would say, ‘It’s going to be all right.”
Tyler first raised the subject of his childhood abuse in 2009, when he posted a letter on his website after experiencing a flood of memories following a screening of the Oscar-nominatedPrecious, which he co-produced, including a story of remembering a man in his church who molested him. ( usatoday.com)
As I watched the show, seeing him holding back his tears, and not even being able to look at pictures of himself from his childhood, I could really see the damages that these people had caused him. It was hard to believe that after all these years, at the age of forty, Tyler Perry still could not talk about his childhood without re living in his mind all of the pain that he went through.
But one thing that he did say that I kept with me was that after everything that his father did, he still sends him a check every month and still allows him to live in this mansion that he built for his parents. He said that to giving these things to his father meant nothing because he forgave him. What he will not and cannot give his father is a relationship between the two of them because he deserves better and will not allow anyone else to treat him any less than he deserves. This statement to me, was the best way that he could prove that he was not confined by his childhood and took back control of his life, from those who did him so much harm…
I wish I had more time to blog about physical abuse and molestation, and rape but I will do a separate blog on these issues when I have a little more time to write.